If you’ve read my emails and blog posts in the past you know I freakin’ love Scandal and particularly
Olivia Pope.
Hello girl crush
That show keeps me on the edge of my seat every week and I’m constantly going back and
forth about Team Fitz or Team Jake.
If you don’t know what I’m talking about, seriously you need to Netflix and binge on this show. It’s the best.
The thing I love about Olivia is that she’s a fixer. She handles shit.
The classic line, “It’s handled”
What does this have to do with you?
My question for you today is are you handling your shit?
I don’t mean this in a condescending way, but here’s what I see from most people…
You set a goal of losing weight
You go hard and all out for a few weeks, maybe a month and then something derails your
progress.
Usually it’s one of these things:
-something “life” related gets in the way and you lose momentum
-you stop seeing results and get frustrated
-the steps required to reach that goal start to get too hard (because you initially underestimated the amount of work required) and the goal starts to seem less important…aka you go back to the “it’s not
so bad” syndrome
Then what happens?
You stop the goal all together, wallow in your sorrows for a bit and then start a new goal that seems fresh, shiny and amazing.
The cycle repeats
You never lose the weight, reach the goal, change your habits or get motivated- whatever your goal actually is.
What’s the deal?
You didn’t handle your shit. What I mean by this is that YOU didn’t change. You’re expecting extravagant results in a goal but you didn’t change yourself.
Your thoughts, habits and actions didn’t REALLY change.
You just relied on will power and “motivation” to achieve that goal. Shit didn’t get handled, because it becomes a vicious cycle of…
Set a goal —> get excited —> will power and white knuckle through a few weeks —> decide it’s not worth it —> stop
So what the hell do you do?
Figure out what’s holding you back in your
head…
Fear?
Feeling like you don’t deserve it?
Afraid of what others will think?
And my personal favorite….fear that you can’t handle the result or the success of the
result.
(I’ll talk about my personal experience with that next time, BTW)
One big reason that people continue this cycle is they try to do it alone. No guidance, no coaching, no support and a place to celebrate the wins.
I’m speaking directly from experience when I write these things. For a long time I didn’t handle my shit, and therefore I didn’t really change much.
That all changed when I began to realize that growing up as an athlete, I ALWAYS had a coach and a support network of my team. Why should it be different now as an adult?
I have a business coach and group that keeps me accountable. I have someone else write my workouts and I belong to an accountability group there too. I pay for these things because if I didn’t, I probably wouldn’t work as hard at them.
I work out with my team or my friends. It’s way more fun and I get a lot more accomplished than doing it alone.
That’s the reason I created the Durbrow Performance Training family and you guys that train here know that. It’s accountability, support, coaching and goal setting that really get you to your goals. It’s not the “latest” workout program that you follow for 2 weeks before you get bored.
So the final question for you today is where do you need to handle your shit? This can be an uncomfortable question and something we shy away from because it kind of sucks to think about.
Someone once told me that a lot of your success and growth comes from the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have. I believe that applies to yourself as well. Get started on it.